When you ask for a reference, how you ask is really important. You need to be sure that the person who is recommending you for employment is willing and able to give you a good reference. That’s really important because your references can be what makes the difference in getting – or not getting – a job offer.
In addition, you shouldn’t give out anyone’s name as a reference without their permission. The individual who is giving you a reference needs to know ahead of time that they may be contacted regarding a reference for you.
How To Ask For an Employment Reference
You can ask for a reference by phone or by email. Email can be a good way to request a reference, because if the person isn’t comfortable recommending you it can be easier to decline by sending an email message than by telling you in person.
When you ask for reference, don’t just say “Could you give me a reference?” or “Could you write a reference letter for me?” Instead, ask “Do you think you know my work well enough to provide me with a reference?” or “Do you feel comfortable giving me a reference” or “Do you feel you could give me a good reference?” This way, your reference giver has an out if they don’t believe they can provide a strong endorsement or if they don’t have the time to write a letter or take phone calls from employers on your behalf.